First Date Conversation
You’re all set and ready for your first date. You’re liking their vibe and you think this could really be something. Whatever you do, keep the conversation flowing. Topics I think you should cover:
1. What they want from this situation — We are all at different stages in life, and we all want different things, you don’t want them planning their wedding with you if you don’t plan to ever get married. Clear things up quickly.
2. Religion — Don’t wait to fall in love to discuss this. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship with someone who shares your beliefs, if there’s no room for compromise then cut your losses and save yourself the headache.
3. Hobbies — It sounds so old school but you’ll be surprised how a difference in hobbies can cause a lot of friction. If they’re into wild adventures and your idea of fun is chilling at home, you will find that they will soon find you boring or you’ll feel that they prefer to spend time without you doing those things.
4. Career paths — Sometimes careers can get in the way of love. If they plan to take the next opportunity to move to Hong Kong and you’re not into long distance relationships, or you work shifts while they prefer a more regular work pattern you need to discuss the possible compromises that will need to be made.
5. Children — You would be surprised at how many people hide the fact that they have children! I’ve never understood why but they do, so you need to ask and get a straight answer. In most cases the person won’t deny it if asked directly, they just don’t mention it if you don’t ask. Depending on what your stance is on dating someone with kids, you can make your decision nice and early.
6. Things that are important to you — Everyone has different deal breakers, ask questions and find out if those deal breakers are in this situation, there’s no point in embarking on a relationship you already know won’t work.
Some people may argue that discussing these topics on a first date is a little heavy but they are, in my opinion, the most overlooked topics and yet they can create very deep cracks in the most established of relationships. There’s no point in getting your feelings caught up in a situation that is destined to end badly. #NotRudeHonest
